Choose wisely

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Assalammualaikum & hi semua. So topik harini is marriage. First of all, I'm not in the place to talk about this topic but I'm matured enough okay since I've been a part time kind of silent reader makcik bawang dekat Twitter kekeke :p To be honest, the things that woke me up is when i read this quote at Twitter *drumroll*

" You can choose whoever to be your husband but you children can't choose who's their father. "

And I was like " wow betul juga ek ". It makes me realise that love itself is not enough. It's more than that, it's all about commitment, financial stability and acceptance. Even Aida Azlin said that it's very risky to marry someone based on potential. For example, " takpela sekarang dia tak bagi komitmen, tapi nanti dah kahwin mesti dia bagi. " " Nanti lepas kahwin, dia berubah la tu " . No, it's a big NO. If he want to change, he will change now. Marriage isn't a trial :')

 When it comes to financial stability, it's not about " okay kau mesti ada kereta Audi dua biji kat rumah, lepastu rumah banglo 7 tingkat and bla bla bla " No. Tu bukan financial stability, to born with a silver spoon in his mouth bro. Financial stability tu bila kau rasa kau dah dapat pekerjaan yang tetap and pendapatan yang stabil setiap bulan untuk sara sesebuah institusi kekeluargaan. Having a secure job & income is enough. 

 Memang tidak dapat dinafikan, kita generasi sekarang ni telah dimomokkan dengan kisah fantasi dan romance drama yang perkahwinan ni indah belaka. Masak sarapan sama-sama, bangun-bangun je ada orang kat sebelah lepastu balik-balik kerja je ada orang tunggu lepastu kasut tercabut, prince datang setiap rumah hanya untuk cari pemilik kasut la but ekceli it's not. Perkahwinan yang sebenar mestilah ada panca roba ha gitteww. Even nak manage diri sendiri pun ada panca roba apalagi bila dah kahwin kena manage your another half ecehh.

So, don't rush.  Because at the end, it's all about choosing the one who you're going to spend the rest of your lives with. Idk why but somehow it's kinda sad seeing the one who fail in their marriage. And ada orang pernah kata " perempuan yang paling malang adalah perempuan yang salah pilih suami " . I'm not going to say that it's their fault for choosing the wrong partner, no. It's cruel. You can never blame one's feelings, you're not in their place so shut up. It's all about choice, you had the right to choose dear.

And Ayah always remind me to " habiskan belajar dulu, dah dapat kerja yang stabil ha nak kahwin, kahwinla " & " Ayah takut ada lelaki sakitkan hati aca " hahahaha meleleh tahu tak. I guess that's why I'm being more careful  lol. I just can't imagine how heartbreaking it is for parents to witness her daughter, who he raised with love and care, being with the wrong guy. Because once dia izinkan anak dia untuk berkahwin, that's mean they trust that there's someone yang boleh sambung jagakan anak dia. Dia percaya yang anak dia in a good hand. 
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May all of us ended up in one and only good hand. Aamin

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